I am woman and I experience my grief. My ex-husband and me are divorced 14 years. He died seven years ago. It has to be funny if somebody reads it but it is true.
My divorce was for me chance to be friend with my husband, he was something what I felt as back up if something will getting wrong. If he died I was so devastated but I did not grief enough. I started to do meditation and I go trough it and I feel what I lost. I confirm what is in post
quote "feeling abandoned or deserted"
I suppose that women are more able to live by them self and what they look for relationship to have a help when is needed. Men are usually looking for somebody who will look after them. I understand that after they miss to be organized.