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Elysium · Aug 04, 2011, 09:32 PM

This sounds like a difficult situation.

It's unfortunate that, in this world, others will take advantage of other peoples weaknesses and vulnerabilities to further their own agenda.

I'm still curious as to what role you have in the situation? Are you a family friend, relative, or person who may have been involved in the initial using of these people before you understood what was going on?

And again, what benefit would them knowing that they were used, and that their son's medical issues may not be related to drugs as they have believed all along have on the situation. Would it solve anything for them to have to face the betrayal of others they were supposed to be able to trust. Would it change anything for the better for the health and well being of the adult child? What would they be able to do differently knowing they were betrayed and would the risk of not knowing the truth overpower the hurt and anguish they would feel if they had to come to face it?

Also, what does the 45 yr old have to say about this? Is this person competent or are they delayed developmentally? What are they saying about the situation?

Sometimes, bad things happen and there is a compassionate inner drive to want to make things better for people....but sometimes what we think may be better will only cause more pain and anguish. If the parents are getting the adult child appropriate medical care and he is not being denied the care he needs, you might want to think if it is worth it to "avenge" the parents in this situation as that outcome has some negative consequences for them in regards to pain, and could have negative consequences on you. But if this person is in jeopardy, then you have to look at the moral and ethics of the situation and make a decision which is going to be in their best medical interest.