What a great insight. My mom told my first ex-husband that she "had" to listen to me talk after school, and that I would say stuff like, "You remember X, I told you about him yesterday" and she would just say yes, yes, she remembered, but she LAUGHED and told him she never remembered any names because she never listened, she just pretended, ha ha ha. So I have been torturing T's and forcing them to listen to me and remember my friends' names for the past 40 years.