Nope, little control if i dissociate or not. Sometimes I don't want to dissociate and face a potential situation as me and thus, try to build up a healthy response to stress. Other times stuff is so intense, I want to dissociate and i can't force it. For me, as I can't speak for everyone, but dissociative states are usually responses to specific events/emotions/trauma.

I would suggest trying to pay attention to what may cause a dissociative state when you're dissociating. I know that sounds difficult, and it is; especially if you're like me, and so used to them by now. Try to write down stuff you're feeling and why, if you can, during dissociative state sand share that with your therapist.