Thread: self-loathing
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Old Aug 05, 2011, 06:26 PM
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I wondered how Byron Katie's method would apply to this statement:
"I hate myself"

1. Is it true? Well yes, this is how I feel, this is how I act, these are the thoughts that go through my head.
2. Can I absolutely know that it is absolutely true?
Ok, so, I feel this, and I act, and I think these thoughts but do I really hate myself? Isn't there something else, quite the opposite, that seeks help, seeks escape, that is not self-hatred. So, no. I guess it is not absolutely true.
3. How am I when I have this thought?
Oh just horrible. I think such awful things about myself, my throughts chasing each other to come up with a better more hurtful insults, and I destroy everything that is good, and sabotage myself
4. How would I be if I did not have this thought
Wow! Just imagine! I would be so happy. I wouldn't be fighting with myself over every little thing, but just go with the flow. My life's circumstances wouldn't matter so much, because I could be happy regardless. I would not have to be so afraid anymore. Of course I would exercise, which really I do not dislike, not when I am doing it. And I would feed myself good nutritious food that help my health conditions, which I do know a lot about. I would not be afraid to do things, or express myself, or that people may judge me. I wouldn't be working the job that I despise, but following my heart. I wouldn't need to escape into video games or excessive tv watching. I would not be afraid of risk. I would not be so quick to interpret other people's actions and words as aimed against me. I wouldn't be so bitter and people would like spending time with me. The more I think about the clearer it is to me that I really, really do not WANT to hate myself anymore, and how much I yearn to have all these things is a proof that I really love myself (which raises a question, who is it that's doing all this self-hating)

Reversal?
Does the following sound as true or maybe even more true?
I don't hate myself.
I love myself.
Hmmm... does sound kinda true.

Ok. Here we go. Upside down and prefering the view.

p.s. I just started playing with Byron Katie's stuff, so I don't have the thing down pat, I believe she does deal with self-statements later in her course, and it may be better than what I have done here.