I remember a weird conversation with a boyfriend about a friend of mine who use to have a husband/boyfriend fall asleep when she was talking/angry and my boyfriend said that was "good" because at least he wasn't being angry/abusive back! I hadn't thought of that; when people don't know what to "do" about us/our problems, just "leaving" can be a good tactic?

We can't "make" other people understand us or respond to us the way we want; they can only respond the way they are/want because, like your boyfriend's view of how he'd feel; they're different from us. So, whatever it is you are feeling, the urge/need is coming from inside you and is your insides giving you a hard time, not your boyfriend's actions/lack of response! If you are comfortable with yourself, you won't "need" your boyfriend in that way, will feel "with" him no matter what his state of being