This used to happen with my husband and I until I realized that what I really wanted was for him to show he "cared" but I knew he wouldn't be drawn into a discussion or an arguement if he was exhausted. So I finally let myself be vulnerable enough to tell him that when I'm upset...I need him to hold me....and he does and its so much easier to know he cares and I can rest in his arms and he usually falls asleep ...

we have to realize that sometimes we need to sit with things being unresolved...