I have been married 8 years now. We both came into this marriage from bitter previous relationships. In the beginning, I was just like you. I could not keep my clam until I had told him exactly how I felt. But my husband, was either too tired to hear it or did not think they are serious issues to discuss. so he would fall asleep in minutes, while I kept awake without being able to sleep. It was mentally and physically tiring for me.

So I started to keep a journal. In that I would write everything as I would be telling him. The tone and words, would be exactly the same as I would be talking to him. I now not only use that to record things that I have to tell him, but anyone in my life. So I resolve many relationship issues (without making big deals out of it) within myself, with the help of the journal.

This is the best self-help I did. Sometimes I go back to old entries and read them. Now I feel how silly certain things, that were worrying me. Most importantly, I found that I have been really insecure in those early days. Now that we know each other much better, I do not feel the need to tell him every feeling that I have. Now I rarely make entries in the journal for him. But I still use it to 'talk to' my mother, sister, and others in my family including my dad who has passed away.

Hope this helps!!