@nucking futz i am glad u got out, my thread narrcissist ahoy gave me god advise about a similar event in my life. stronger man gave some good insight about the methodology of such people. i had it tough with my ex, still do, he pretending nothing wrong ever happened and calling me is best friend after calling me s*** in front of his sister and bashing me for silly reasons making me hide myself and my wounds in shame for days, soon he made me an isolate that the nieghbours thought i was sick and paranoid. a burst of courage got me out of prison, now am trying to relax and set my mind straight. but he still hast signed the papers for mutual divorce and nw wants to take me on a trip to spain, to solve all probs and become thr right person for me.talk about being disoriented!! its true he will never find a girl like me, the only person in his construed life who will ever love care and encourage his good like i did. most girls will stamp their foot down for more than that and the land he sold to suport our lives( he would work only on a whim and not let me work my way up but wanted me to secure senior positions in the best institutions and earn fame for him. he admonished me for not able to do that!) anyways, reading his pathetic mails makes me wanna strangle him.... sorry just mad i have to stand this till he signs the papers. just worried he will keep postponing this to prolong the pain i have to endure. god bless and more power to you......