I posted this on another forum too!

I have been exactly where you are at, an let me tell you. Once she does this then the relationship is over. Now I am open to having and open relationship, we both were in the beginning but her actions and behavior have almost turned me away from it.

We have had 2 threesomes, the first 1 was with one of her friends. She stayed over for a week and all 3 of us had hot sex every night. We she left that was it, I had no feelings for her what so ever. In fact we really fell out of contact with her. I recently found out she got married and is happy.

The 2nd threesome was with my best friend, you think it would have went the same way right. WRONG! They both fell in love with each other she wanted a 3way relationship with him. At first I really did not have a problem with it, I figured it would be over, after all we had a threesome with a girl an it was only fair. Well she and him started falling in love with each other. She started wanting to be around him more an more. It got to the point where she gave me and ultimatum, let her be with him or she is leaving and talking the kids with her. It was not tell she realized he was not going to take care of the kids did she come back to me. Oh by the way she decided during this whole 3 month fling she was not going to make love to me but she wouldn’t allow me to sleep on the couch. She did not even bother to move out. Well they stopped talking and she came back all crying to me. I gave her the I told you so speech and she said she would never do it again. Just think all this drama was going on and I had to try an hide it from our kids. Well we get counseling because I actually believe in a marriage and I did not want to break our family up. The kids love us to death and I would hate to see them loose their Daddy. You think it would have ended there, WRONG AGAIN. Just two years later here they are going at it again, same as the first time, she wanted to leave me for him. But like the first time he just wanted her. Well then it happen again just last year, she just could not stay away form him.

Now let me be clear about this, I was all for having a 3-way relationship, we where really good friends and he really did care about her. He just was not ready for kids and I do not blame him, being a father is no easy job. I was also clear with her that if some girl came a long an I liked her a lot then she would be apart of us too. Well guess what, some girl did come a long and I started having strong feelings for her. Everything seemed like it was going to work, she really wanted it to I believe but she just could not get over him. So she decided she did not want to be her friend anymore. Well **** she shot that down after 9 months. I did not even sleep with her or kiss her. I got as for as your pretty with her, she knew I liked her and how I felt about her and I knew how she felt. I told her as long as you know how I feel I am good, she has a boyfriend and I was not about to break her and him up.

That was just a few months ago, me and her still talk everyone other day but I wife will not even talk to her. She gets mad when I bring her up. I thought they were good friends. Well I though her wanted to sleep with other guys was done. I have not been with anyone else since the first 3some, she has been with her guy more times then I can count. Since I am not a sex freak the lack of sex was not a big problem for me, there were times we I would bring it up but she always had an excuse. Her whole relationship with him over a 5 year period was only about 5 months total, so after the initial fling it really didn’t pick up much. Just a lot of chatting and phone talking.

Well after she realized he was not coming back, she started looking for other guys. Meet 2 or 3 and we all had lunch. I really did not have a choice in the matter since we both worked at the same place and I did not get notice of it tell lunch. She dropped all 3 of them when all the wanted was sex from her. Again I gave her the I told you so speech.

Now I know others are think, why are you still with this women, she does not care about you or respect you. All of you are right. I grew up without a Father and after he died 3 years ago I found out he had another family. He really did not give a **** about me and my brother one bit. So I am not going to abandon my kids, so I am going to do everything in my power to keep them and as long as she decided to stay in the marriage I am ok, it means no divorce drama for the kids. Tell you the truth if she leaves I will not be hurt that much. I love her to death but I can not always worry about her ****, and despite my best efforts my older daughter 6 Is starting to wonder why mommy is always mad at Daddy.

Sex is Sex to me and Making Love is Making Love, I know the difference and so does she. I have come to realize that she may not stop and she might need professional help. **** her mom does 100% and more of the **** she does. Both my Mother and my Brother believe I should stick with her until she finally does leave. I am very surprised by how many people tell me not to leave. Even her own mom begged me not to leave her.

Now I have a friend who also went through something similar, he ended up moving out of his own house an getting a ****ty apartment. The girl kept his house and moved the guy in and makes him pay the $900 rent. He really got ****ed over. I can not say I am doing better but if I wanted to go out and get another girl I could. I do photography with models an I know a **** load of girls that would get with me. Hell several girls have flat out told my wife they want me.

In the last 3 days I found out she wants to sleep with another guy, he works with her( I quit working there due to the fact I am going to the Police Academy next year and I need a job with less hours so I can focus on my classes) well you know she is not going to leave me, she has been the biggest support and My brother and me wanting to be cops.
So here we go again plus she wants me to slept with her friend from work. Just last night we had a huge argument about me being boring and a goody to shoes and why wont I get drunk with her and **** her friend bull****. I told her if you want to get ****ed by all means do so, but do not drag me in the whole with you and do not come at me with the guilt trip when its done. She got pissed and started chatting with her guy friend.

My brother just looked at her like she was crazy and said when you loose him its your own fault.

For all the people that read this, I have the full support of my family and hers and have had it for the last 6 years. They all want to see us stay together and they have been the biggest reason I have stated in this 8 year long relationship. I would just like to give my 2 cents and to warn OP of how things could turn out. I love my Wife, but sometimes its not worth it.

Thanks