One day it will not be different if he continues on without getting some kind of help (like therapy) to get in touch with his emotions & lean to understand his past & put it where it belongs in order to have a real relationship with you.....or anyone as far as that goes. It's obvious that he doesn't KNOW HOW TO HAVE a "normal" relationship but he thinks he can.....he may not know how from his past. Without new input & understanding what he needs to change to have a real "normal" relationship.....he will never get there & you won't get there with him.

Do his actions say "I love you" but he just can't get out the words? or do his actions fit his words where he really doesn't love you in either actions or words?

Sometimes we need to analyze the relationship we are in. You need to know just how much you really need to hear the words if his actions really say is all......then hopefully some therapy or counselling can help him with what is "blocking" him from being able to say it.

If he really cares for you, I would think that he would want to get the help so that he could really have a wonderful relationship with you. But then from what I have observed, many times (not all) there is a lack of true commitment existing when ONLY living together in the first place.

If in fact, your relationship is only a one sided one where you are putting everything into the relationship, then you need to get out & maybe in Therapy, work on what you need to do to get involved in a relationship that can provide you the "love" that you really need....not just the WORD, but the real emotion of LOVE.