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Old Aug 07, 2011, 09:36 AM
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Originally Posted by dizgirl2011 View Post
Thoughts always preceed feelings, so to try and calm down the feelings that may seem too much for the given situtation, I think you have to challenge the irrational thoughs (like people do in CBT).
Oh, my thoughts tell me that my T is compassionate, that her words were a result of a misunderstanding, that she really isn't rejecting me big time, etc. etc. So my thoughts are rational and I don't need to challenge them - the thoughts are not distorted. It is my feelings that are uncontrollable.