Hello, Set Me Free. Perhaps these articles might be of benefit:

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/anxiet...ruth-part-one/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/anxiet...-truth-part-2/
http://www.sixwise.com/newsletters/0...ur-battles.htm
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...ss-in-4-steps/
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/***...2/METHOD=print
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...ood-listening/
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...ng-personally/
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/impr...ationships.htm
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/eq8_...resolution.htm
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...-who-can-do-it

You might try journaling < http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/the...of-journaling/ > as a means to record what your partner does that bothers you and how the botheration might productively be addressed.

I know this is likely way more than you wanted. Albeit, I hope the articles are of some benefit.