Just a comment about belts and whipping. I was like you: shy, good, quiet. My brother caused trouble and he got hit by my father with his belt. But, at that time getting hit with a strap was the usual means of punishment; it wasn't as terrible as it sounds. I'm saying that for others who may think it's very abusive. Or, I could be wrong. In my family, it was more a threat to my brother, never to me. My Mom would say "Dad will get you with the strap if you don't behave". Sorry if this is off subject.