For me..............the answer is because I have more to lose if the relationship goes sour than they do. However.............I have also just accepted that I do. My current T said once...........why do feelings have to make sense? Why? Just accept that it is and move forward with it. Just accept that you care more. Just because we care MORE doesn't mean our Ts don't CARE. Because they do. You can feel that if you will open yourself up to it.