I think it's fine to care for our T's. That is not unhealthy at all. I think it becomes unhealthy when we want to 'possess' them or for that matter, possess anyone. Is it possible in RL to have such an intimate relationship where it doesn't matter what we say - that we'll be accepted? That is powerful and intoxicating. So, I'd say, let's enjoy it for what it is and not worry too much about it.