Thank you for your thoughts Rose76 - as far as I'm concerned the marriage is beyond fixing. When he initially got involved with the other woman, I gave him a year to decide who he wanted and I said we could reconcile if he left the other one. He never kept his promise and now I have no interest in physically reconnecting. He thinks he can continue living here and I'm supposed to accept being alone in the intimate sense. He thinks as long as he keeps everything else the same, that should be acceptable to me. I don't even know if he's still has a relationship with the other woman because he's been here every night for the past year and a half. BTW he didn't come home last night - I don't know whether its because he's still pouting or because he knows I can't stand these kind of nasty arguments. He has a bed at our business in case he wants to stay there when he works late. All along I have given him complete reassurance that I would be civil if we split and would never use the kids as pawns.

He can be a nice person and is a good father the majority of the time. The trouble is, he can turn against even a loved one like his own family and be alienated for years. He can be someones best friend ever and bend over backwards but if the friendship sours, then he can be nasty. He's a very complicated person.