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I think I know the type. As I said in my last post, I have some experience with this kind of behavior. I'm glad for you that you seem to have reached a certain level of acceptance that this may not be fixable. Well, you come right out and say that it is not. There are people who can be so okay (when they are okay) and then - wow - they can turn like a snake on somebody. Probably not someone you want to grow old with. It gets worse as time goes by. He'll have more things to be mad about when he is no longer young.
You've cut him a tremendous amount of slack . . . far more that he deserved. You are probably a very tolerant person. He may have picked you for a spouse partly because he thought you would put up with a lot. Maybe, you give him more credit than he deserves. "He can be a nice person and a good father the majority of the time." -- Why do I have trouble believing that? Oh, it's because I just don't understand because he is so complicated. I don't know, Lynn P., somehow I think being selfish and wanting to"have one's cake and eat it too" isn't all that complicated. Don't make any moves that you're not ready to make. I'm not suggesting you do anything . . . except, maybe . . . think about having higher standards for what you think you are entitled to. You set that bar awfully low for him, while he sets it so high for you.
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