I've never had personally knew any cliquish, catty, shallow women. I know they are out there, I keep hearing and reading about them. On the other hand I am not setting my eyes on alpha females leading a pack and self-proclaimed princesses (my attitude toward a princess is "oh, so very sorry, do you need some help with this condition?").

I wish I had more women friends, but part of the problem is that I am bad at cultivating relationships. I have major problem keeping my house in "guest shape" and I also tend to get sucked into my own rabbit holes, and forget about the world for months at a time. My best woman friend, one whom I felt I loved more deeply and intensely than I've ever loved any b.f. even though I was not sexually attracted to her, has stopped responding to me. I figured later the relationship was too 1-sided. I wanted to tell her about my life and my problems, and did give equal time to her life, and it really was because I did not love her, because if I did, I would be more interested in hearing her, than her hearing me. Made me doubt my ability to love. At least at that time.