Rainbow, aren't actions more important than words? Words can be much easier manipulated than actions and can also be interpreted in a myriad ways. Actions, like how your T treats you, are more concrete. I think your T believes she must be very careful with you because this is such an issue for you. And if she does exactly what you want her to do, she will not be helping you grow and learn to be more independent emotionally. Her saying those words could likely increase your dependence on her. Pay attention to her actions and there you will discover the kind of love a therapist can give.
Just my thoughts...