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Originally Posted by lost in termination
Isn't that why we are in therapy? To learn how to be more honest with ourselves and others?
Her words hurt you. Is it possible you really did want to hurt her feelings so she might know how if feels?
The whole purpose of therapy is to focus on YOU and YOUR feelings, not T.
WHY?
Why do you have to be anyone different than who YOU are? If your T can't handle it, it is your T's problem, not YOURS.
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I don't think it's ever right to deliberately hurt someone's feelings. Even though I go to therapy for ME, does not give me the right to abuse another person. I guess I didn't really 'abuse' her but when describing the incident in which I had shared with her how hard it was to make phone calls under any circumstance and she expressed how she understood how hard that was for me (we were talking about the past in which she figuratively hit me with a 2x4)
And then I said sarcastically, "And so you thought that was a good time to impose stricter boundaries - just when I had shared with you how hard it was to call you? It's not like I overdid it - like 6 times a day or something. Usually only once a week I'd call but sometimes as much as 3 x a week. I almost never ask you to call back but still - that's when you decided to add extra restrictions?"
But, see, I know she didn't mean to do that. It was an honest mistake on her part and I know that but still I rubbed her nose in it - that she made a mistake. That's not nice.