Do you know how the laceration happened? I wonder if your boyfriend feels a little guilty, maybe feels like he is the one that caused it, and it afraid of it happening again. That's just my take on it, but I'm female, and females and males tend to view things completely different so I could be way off.

I do understand the issues that come with a differing sex drive (even though the causes are different). My fiance has a very low sex drive, and prefers cuddling and holding me far more than sex. I have trouble with this because I tend to associate sex with love and feelings of being wanted, needed, etc. (I think because I waited so long to have it, and he's my first and only). This is an on going thing that we've been working on for years (even before we actually did it!). I don't really have much advice other than to try having a calm conversation about what you're feeling, using "I" statements instead of "You" statements. I've also learned that sometimes I have to bite the bullet -- if I want it, I have to go and get it myself, simply being 100% straightforward. Generally, my fiance misses any subtle hints I give that seem obvious to me (there's that whole male v. female view of the world again).

Good luck. I just wanted to know I understand the feelings you're having and that you are not alone. I hope you feel better, mentally, emotionally, and physically!