Here are the items that I weighted with a "5" (highest value) on the pro side:
Love
Sweet
Gentle
Considerate
Good w/ Oliver
Smart
Moved here to be w/ me
Best friend
Similar political and religious viewpoints
Doesn't need to posture or puff up his chest
Somewhat willing to put effort into relationship
Willing to make an attempt at forgiveness
Loves Oliver
An overall good person
Need him - emotionally
Is concerned for my well-being
Good in bed
Likes to cuddle

Those are just the "5"s, and the main reasons I'm considering fighting for the relationship.

I always wondered if I was being "emotionally fragile" or overly sensitive when I got the impression that he thought everything was my fault. I thought I was doing that relationship no-no, getting defensive. Perhaps it was not my imagination then?