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Originally Posted by skysblue
...or be confrontational. I'm worried I may have been too honest and said too much about how her words hurt me. I was even sarcastic at one point and now I regret that. I think I need to be more careful how I express myself in session and think about how my words could affect her. I also don't want to be seen as the difficult client so I will try to be more attentive and cautious before I speak.
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I agree with what everyone said, including you skyblue, that it's good to be as honest as you can and not to try to be careful about how you express yourself. Being careful sounds like holding back and restraining yourself from being authentic.
I also agree with you that being considerate of other people's feelings is a good thing to do. I don't think you have to suddenly stop doing it in therapy. If you think you were too sarcastic, it's okay, and nice of you, to tell your t that. I 'spose it's safer in therapy to be accidentally inconsiderate (or even intentionally inconsiderate) while we're learning, but when we realize we could do better, it's good to do that too.
I think you sound very sensitive and considerate, skyisblue, to have thought of your therapist's feelings and my guess is she would like it even though she wouldn't think it was necessary to apologize. I also think it's pretty normal, even if not perfectly ideal, to act out (though it doesn't sound like you acted out very much at all) when you're hurt that much.