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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
It took me a little to figure out who was saying what in your last post, but figure it out I did. I think it was a good response. I especially like the second half.
I did find it a little odd that you put "somewhat willing to work on relationship" as 5 star worthy on your pro's. I think "willing to work" would have gotten 5, whereas "somewhat willing" would have only gotten 3 or 4. But then, that is my list and not yours, so irrelevant. I agree with TheByz in everything he has written in this thread so far.
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Yeah! It used to be color and font-coded, but when I pasted it in, that went away. Much more confusing this way... oh well.
Keep in mind the list was a brainstorm, I was just writing down what came to mind. My counselor suggested I rate the items on a scale of 1 to 5: 5 being an item that is a deal-breaker, i.e. if it's on the con side, it has to change or the relationship is over, if it's on the pro side, it has to stay the same or the relationship is over. 1 being an item that, "eh, I'd kinda like it if that changed (or stayed the same) but it doesn't really matter one way or the other." Him being willing to work on a relationship is definitely a deal-breaker, a 5 if anything ever was a 5, but "willing to work on relationship" wasn't on my list, so "somewhat willing to work on relationship" had to suffice. Make sense? I say "somewhat willing" because, although he professes to be willing to work on the relationship, he still does this stuff that you guys are seeing and pointing out where he shifts blame and won't admit his faults.
Alright, off to draft another email. Here we go.