{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Rap}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I give credit for learning how not to hate myself to my current T (who is, of course, now LEAVING me -- waaaaaah!). He may be the most empathetic person I've ever met. He accepts me for who I am, which nobody had ever done for me before, and slowly, over the years, having proved over and over again to me that he truly cares about me and not just because it's his job, I started to hear his affirmations and good thoughts about me and take them to heart.

It took complete trust in him for me, and a lot of genuine care from someone who thinks well of me, to get me to stop hating myself, but I did it. I backslide now and then, but most days I can at least tolerate myself, if not like myself, and that is a bigger step for me than anyone can ever know.

It's a slow process, but if you can find even one person (T should be it, IMHO!) who will challenge your self-hate thoughts and statements, eventually they will go away. In your case, getting away from a control freak husband also would be a good idea, but I know that's much, much easier said than done.

PM or email anytime and I'll do my best to help.

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Love, Candy