hi TG
I rarely ever ask those loaded questions.i am terrified of the answers.a few sessions ago my T was really pushing me hard because she wanted me to talk to her about what was going on.i was freaking out because i just knew she was mad at me.i was convinced in my head that she hated me and didn't want to see me.for the first time i actually called her.but i still couldn't ask her if she was angry or anything.i asked the safest question i could and that was.are you going to be there next week and i wanted to know all is OK??she said yes.but if i asked her if she was angry and she said yes i would have been crushed.it is safer for me to leave these unanswered.
my T asked me if i had asked her if i was angry and she said no would i have believed her??ummm NO.could this be why your T doesn't want to keep verbally reassuring you .do you have a hard time believing his answer.if so maybe he wants you to take a look at his actions for proof of his intentions