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Originally Posted by Dahliaxx
I feel like I'm far more depressed when I'm not in a relationship. I really don't like this about myself and wish that I could be happy without depending on someone to make it happen. On the other hand, relationships make me extremely nervous and confused. I feel like I'm going to do something wrong all the time and I'm never sure if I'm being too affectionate or giving too much space.
Right now, I'm in a relationship. He and I have been together for a month and he makes me pretty happy. However, it seems like I always come second to him. He's always busy with friends and going to parties. With my anxiety and everything, I tend to spend all of my time at home. He's aware of this and told me he would make time for me. Finally, I brought up how I was feeling and he said he was sorry. He really seems to want to make things work, but I'm not sure if he can. He's young (18 and I'm soon to be 21), still in high school, and a little immature. He's also a near perfect match for me.
I feel like the real problem is myself. I worry way too much! I have trouble expressing my worries, as well. So, first, how do I stop worrying? Second, how do I learn to talk to him about what's troubling me? And third, how can I stop being so dependent?!
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It's still pretty early in the relationship and he may not be prepared or have enough life experience to give you what you need from him. Always put yourself first. It's best to find out sooner than later - I'd be wary if I already felt this way after only a month of being with someone.