This is possible and probable. I do not understand why as we have a very close and loving relationship despite our obstacles. The only thing is he really didn't want me to know. It was bad timing that I caught / found him. But what you have just said certainly makes sense in some other areas not related to this incident.
I am going to open a little "agreement book" so that we can communicate together and add to it as it may be necessary. Thanks again for wonderful advice.