I'm trying to wrap my head around something. . .and it's associated with the whole business of needing more from my t than she can give me.

On the one hand, she has encouraged me to open up that hurting needy child side of me and express what she needs. . .

But on the other hand, when I've done that, what she needs is too excessive and I'm told that those needs "are fitting for an infant, but not for an adult. You are an adult, and need to be treated like an adult."

So here is where i am stuck and not "getting it." Why would she want me to open up and share those vulnerable needs with her, if she is just going to come back and tell me that those are "child" needs that aren't appropriate for an adult? I mean, it's hard enough to admit what i need. But to be made to feel that what i need is inappropriate, and that i shouldn't need that or be the way i am, it just makes me feel awful and regretful that i ever shared my needs.

I don't know what my t wants from me. If she wants me to be an adult, with adult needs, and be treated as an adult, then OK, i can do that. But then don't go asking how child parts of me feel or what they need from her.

Am i making sense? Does anyone relate?