Dreamwolf
we all have thousands of thoughts a day. some are positive and some are negative. we cant control these thoughts. what we can do is control what we do with these thoughts. you can take any negative thought and turn it into a positve thought. because our thoughts control our actions. if you have the thought that you dont want your brother irritating you, then you will act by calling him an a**hole. but if you have that thought that he is irritating you and turn it around to "i want a positive relationship with my brother" you are less likely to call him an a**hole and take the action to cooperate with him instead. you can still be depressed and learn to change negative thoughts to positve so that you can take positve actions which will lead to the positive future. i dont have a goal to lead a long life. i frankly dont want to live on this sucky earth that long. but i have decided that i will go ahead and live and make the best of it while i am here, since i do have to be here my goal is to not be so miserable anymore. so i make positive choices today so i dont have to be so unhappy.