With casual promises not kept, I found the fault lies, at least partly, with me. I hear what I like, but I don't ground it. And how can I be pissed at others for not keeping their promises where I know how much I promised self, others, and the world and done maybe 1% of it. I've never found energy to do right by the semi-feral cats in my neighborhood. I've never revisted all those places I swore I will. I haven't gone for a walk yesterday. I haven't gone to the gym, like I swore to my friend I will. I haven't called people back, I haven't kept in touch after they left, I haven't visited when passing through their town, I haven't even tried. I haven't cleaned up the old beehives. I haven't fixed my motorcycle, or sold it. I haven't shared with my neighbors the extra plums, like I promised. Why would I expect world to be any different? Why would I waste my energy hurting because someone did not do what they said, and probably genuinely even meant in that moment, they will do?

And one person's gossip is another person expression of concern for the fellow human being. If I'd rather not have the whole office know, I have to make it clear to each person you share with that you will take it badly if I found out this was passed. People have no idea I may feel ashamed, if they would not feel ashamed themselves.

p.s.
I am not saying there isn't a malicious gossip. Some people's overuse of generalization have led them to condemnation of everyone else, so of course they will feel free to spread rumors and even invent stuff - probably in revenge for real or imagined wrongs dealt to them by "everyone" else.