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Originally Posted by skysblue
I know the hesitation. My T comments on the 'adult' Skysblue. And I'll respond, "See, that's why I shouldn't regress in therapy." And she tries to explain to me that I must get in touch with the child parts. My T has never said I was 'too much' for her but we've been discussing how my reactions to her reflect MY fear that I'm too much for her. She keeps encouraging me to get to know my child parts. But the instinct is to keep them hidden also.
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Skysblue,
So. . .yes, t's want us to get in touch with our child parts. But then what? Soothe, help, fix their problems? If that were possible, we would have done that to start with and we wouldn't need therapy, would we? The only thing i can figure out is that therapy seems like a journey where our child self is lost or something, and t is only a guide to help us find her. Once we've found our child self, the t wants to step out of the picture. The problem with that is that the child part, once found, has hurts and needs and often attaches to the therapist with the hope that some of those unmet needs and desires can be healed and met in the t relationship. I don't want my t to pretend to be interested in the child part of me if she just intends to step aside and leave me with her to flail alone. I don't know if I'm saying this right. But i'm just discouraged.
The other point is how to get those unmet child needs met in an adult way. I do not know what is meant by this, or how that happens.