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Originally Posted by Improving
Peaches, you are making perfect sense. This is a tension that T and I discuss all the time, and haven't yet found a solution for. I know that this can be very painful and I'm sorry you're struggling with it 
Omers, thank you for clarifying the need vs. want thing. This is another thing T and I are 'discussing' (somewhat heatedly!  ) at the moment. I like the concept of always finding a way to get our needs met, even if it's not in the way we would initially have chosen. I always enjoy your posts and hearing about your experiences  |
Hi Improving,
Yes, it is very painful. Thanks for acknowledging that. I've heard the key to getting unmet needs met is to find a way to meet them ourselves. And i have been doing that, through self-soothing, etc. But it's not the same, it doesn't feel like what i need -- to just give it to myself. It doesn't rid me of needing that connection/reassurance from my t. I still feel it acutely. When it appears that my needs can never truly be met, the only way i can deal with it is to forceably submerge those needs and push child parts back down into my subconsious where i won't let myself think about them and what they need.