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Old Aug 10, 2011, 08:35 AM
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Originally Posted by Kacey2 View Post
Peaches
I am sorry that you are struggling with this and I can appreciate what you are going through myself. I think that you hit it on the nail when you talked about balance. However, really t's, we are in therapy for a reason. Most of us don't know how handle these child needs and intense feelings let alone know how to balance them. I think that you are incredibly brave to even be reflecting on this and open with your t. I hope that she can find a way to help you through this with out shaming you. That to me is the worst. Being exposed and vulnerable and then to be shamed. Maybe you could tell her that is how you are feeling. I think t's really cringe if they think they may be adding to clients shame. Good luck with this. I sincerely hope you can find comfort soon.
Hi Kacey2,

Yes, i need help to understand where the balance is. Because right now, i am bouncing back and forth from needing too much -- to forcing all my needs back down because they appear too extreme and i've felt shamed by realizing it. I know my t would never shame me on purpose, but she has done it by comparing my need for email replies/responsiveness as being equivalent to an infant, and bringing to my attention that i am an adult.