I read the original 2 posts but haven't read replies yet. I'm at work and don't have much time.

The reason it is asked that people get in touch with their child-parts is so that those parts can get some pieces of healing. But yes, at the same time, you are now an adult and your needs have to be met in an adult fashion. The T sounds like she is trying to heal the child, through the adult you.

Trigger warning possibly!

I'll use an example that has come up in my own therapy. If the child wants to be breastfed, that's an ok want from a small child. We can talk about those things. What do they mean? To be nurtured, and safe, taken care of, and comforted. Now take that to the adult world we are now in. What can T do to provide you with nurturing, safety, taking care of you, and comforting you? Perhaps she can sit next to you and rub your back, or hold your hand, talk to you softly, give you words of validation and a feeling of being held close and securely.

You have to be able to hold in one hand, the wants of being a child and healing that child part, and in the other, the knowledge that you are an adult and so things have to look differently. But neither part should be completely cut off from another. That 'child' has a right to be heard and comforted, it's just the way about it is different.

Make sense?