I've talked to my T about my relationship with a very good friend of mine - someone I see and talk to almost daily. As much as I love her and enjoy her, I hate walking on eggshells around her.

T has told me that I need to address this with her, and that I allow people to mistreat me for a long time before reaching my limit. I have a session with T tomorrow, and I really don't want to have to spend my session taking about her when I have other things that I need to address - even though I know that it's important too.

She rarely lets me get a word in discussions....always "knows everything"....takes everything personally....makes everything about her...snaps and treats people like dirt and then chastises them for reacting to her....acts like a martyr to gain attention...minimizes others and dismisses their feelings - yet reacts explosively and defensively whenever hearing anything remotely negative towards her or misinterprets it as such....She is incredibly needy and demanding....acts out when she doesn't get what she wants....expects a lot from me (like expecting me to go to her house every single day - and on the days when she KNOWS I'm not available, there's magically a "crisis" so she tries to get me to come over), seems to resent my daughter. The list is long....

It is SO hard to talk to her. SO hard. However, it's affecting our friendship, so I need to address it....Her husband and children are also suffering tremendously by her behavior....As much as I love spending time with her - we laugh, shop, do crafts together...I HAVE to do something about this.

I suspect that she has BPD....and am hopeful that some of you who have BPD or have family with BPD, that you can help provide me with some insight as to how to address this with her in an effective way....T tells me that I need to set boundaries - and tell her that her behavior is unacceptable and that if she doesn't change, I will have to limit my exposure to her. I KNOW that won't go over well and am hopeful that there is a more delicate way to put it...