One of the main topics with which I work in therapy is an unhealthy dynamic between a friend and myself. T has called our relationship co-dependent. T asks me what I get out of the friendship. What is the draw? What is the pull? Why do I have so little power or control over it?

Things have changed dramatically the past few months as I've been more clear to myself what I want and I have been able to communicate that to my friend. Of course, it has not gone over well and she has been very confrontational to me and accused me of being all kinds of bad things. It has been very very rocky but I find myself getting stronger all the time with T's help.

There is a risk of losing the friendship once new boundaries are put in place but knowing yourself better and what you want, I think, is worth it. At least that has been my experience. There was/is a lot of fear involved and me & T have explored from where that originates.

It is quite telling the symbolism inherent in these kinds of dysfunctional relationships. I've discovered, with T's help, that they, (yep, you've got it) come from childhood.