this is continuation to some of my other posts. a brief history- was stuck in a 6yr suffocative marriage with a narcissist personified. the tough part was over -getting out of the imprisonment he put me under mentally, physically and spiritually. now after 4 months he still hasnt agreed to come and sign the papers. according to the law here, mutual agreement to divorce is the least messy way out for both parties and requires both parties to be present for one day in court and submit the petiton together then wait for the second session in court after a six month waiting period to finally obtain the divorce notice.
now my problem is that he is in contact with me by mail, i cut out the phone calls since he did not keep the last deadline i gave him last month. i have been strict with him asking him to write only about the petition statements and his arrival date but he just continues to weigh heavily on me about his crumbling life without me, how he has changed in looks, ways and nature(???) and wanting me to give him 6months to turn into a new leaf and continuing life with him. that is definitely not an option for me,i am thru with him for good.
i am scared he wll continue to talk about his diffculties and mess up my brain and completely ignore my need to be free of him. i am scared he is getting obsessed with the idea of able to convince me to live wth him and has no intention of giving me a divorce.
do i challenge him to a new deadline to appear in court or should i ignore him to wait and let him submit into coming himself. my mother asks me to warn him about cutting off with him completely and appointing my mother to talk and deal with him so he understands i am out of his picture and there is no other way than to concede to the proceedings. i hate it that he takes me for granted. he in his latest says his mother is sick and has to be cared for so i guess he will be 'busy' for a week. not like he is a very indulgent son nor are his parents anything but dysfuntional(read schizophrenic/depressive). and i doubt it is true he has lied to me many times before. he keeps looking for excuses like his illhealth or his parents illhealth to put off things. may be i should just talk to his sister or one of his parents into forcing him to come.
i might be writing in very entertaining language but i am scared to the hilt of what is to become of me if he continues to fill my mailbox with crap. and deny me my release. somebody advise.. my neck is all stiff with worry...