Hi Ruby,

Guess what girl? you already have your release. You are free from this abusive SOB and you will want to keep it that way. Its my guess that you are still codependant with your husband as it comes out in your post.

With people like this, the more you entertain their games the more you encourage them. Unless he has been in aggressive therapy I doubt he has changed and this is just a lie to snare you back into his web.

I would let your mother handle all discussions with him. If he tries to guilt trip you with his OWN persona problems, just put them back in his lap and say "I'm sorry, but that is not my issue."

Seriously, this guy wont go away unless and until he knows that you are out of this game totally. You deserve it and I would advise you to seek some counsel as to why you choose men like this. If you dont you more than likely will find yourself with a new man but behavior similar to your soon to be ex-husband.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.