SD, sometimes that sharing has to happen first and then when we see their reaction the embarrassement and shame goes away...But for me, I never directly talked to T. about it...I just decided to accept those feelings as feelings and you know what ....the embarrassment and shame lessened and eventually the feelings were not so intense and I am able to know T. cares for me and I for him and I can look him in the eye and feel it and know he knows I feel it. Of course that took me 6 months...

I know you will find your way through this too..