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Echoes and Shebutz gave you some great advice, LaLuuz. I totally agree with Echoes that you're going to have to go through the anguish of setting some very firm boundaries/limits with your brother. He isn't going to like it but it is for your benefit as well as his. When you politely but firmly end the conversation after ten or fifteen minutes, you need to be prepared for him to possibly retailiate in anger. This can take the form of heated attempts to call again and shame you for your "uncaring attitude" and then possibly followed by cold withdrawal to punish you. Hang in there and remain connected to him by responding to his attempts to reconnect another day BUT remember to reset the time limit with the next call. When we set boundaries, people will push up against them time and time again, but after a while they learn that we are serious and have the right to set this limit. Your brother doesn't have to "like" the boundaries you set, he just has to learn to respect them. Good luck!
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