Richard, emotions only tell us what we are feeling, they don't tell us what is wrong and they are not the "cause" of why we are sad or hurt. Just because we feel sad, that's not the problem or even a symptom, it's information.

What do you do when you get business information you don't like? Do you refuse to do business? No, you figure out how to use that information to your advantage so the actual business comes out better.

Emotions are the same; when I have a negative emotion, I look for a negative situation within me or "out there" and figure out how to work with the situation to make it better.

If you push people away and that makes you feel bad about yourself, try some therapy to see if you can learn why you push people away and how to solve that negative action. But if you kill the noticing and response, you cut off your nose to spite your face; your information about what is going on with you in yourself or the world gets killed and you are are working blind.

Besides, we can't literally kill our feelings; they're there we can only fool ourselves that they are not or that they don't matter. It's like deciding not to get a medical test because it might show you have cancer. If you hurt, you need help! I would see if I could find a counselor who could help me?