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Originally Posted by Perna
Richard, emotions only tell us what we are feeling, they don't tell us what is wrong and they are not the "cause" of why we are sad or hurt. Just because we feel sad, that's not the problem or even a symptom, it's information.
What do you do when you get business information you don't like? Do you refuse to do business? No, you figure out how to use that information to your advantage so the actual business comes out better.
Emotions are the same; when I have a negative emotion, I look for a negative situation within me or "out there" and figure out how to work with the situation to make it better.
If you push people away and that makes you feel bad about yourself, try some therapy to see if you can learn why you push people away and how to solve that negative action. But if you kill the noticing and response, you cut off your nose to spite your face; your information about what is going on with you in yourself or the world gets killed and you are are working blind.
Besides, we can't literally kill our feelings; they're there we can only fool ourselves that they are not or that they don't matter. It's like deciding not to get a medical test because it might show you have cancer. If you hurt, you need help! I would see if I could find a counselor who could help me?
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I am the negative situation Perna, Im the problem.
Not feeling is easy, I was brought up not to feel only to do whatever was necessary to survive, and my life followed that path for a long time. Its only now Im older that I see I cant continue like this. I push people away because it will avoid the inevitable disappointment that always follows, hurt myself before they can hurt me. We say happiness is just a series of moments but Ive ran out of those moments. who can help me? who can put the monster back in its cage, not me and its my monster. At least if i beat them to the punch then my suffering is by my own hand, I can blame no one else in this life for my pain other than myself.