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Old Aug 12, 2011, 04:19 PM
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thanks everyone for your comments. i talked to t about this and he believes that the extent people feel like they belong is a measure of how much they trust those around them. and that i dont feel like i belong because i dont trust the people im with to accept all of me or not react negatively to aspects of me. i dont really want any further comments back from people but just wanted to share in case it helps someone else.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Thanks for this!
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