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Old Aug 12, 2011, 04:33 PM
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thanks for all the comments both here and in the psychotherapy forum. unfortunately no one has actually understood what i was trying to ask (rather unclearly).

my problem is that there are two parts with very strong and totally opposite goals. for a multitude of reasons we are working towards one set of these goals. have tried explaining many times to the other part why that is and why it is good for us. but it apparently results in that part feeling unimportant and neglected and invisible and like it doesnt count. i am wanting to know how other people deal with situations like this where by necessity one part has to lose out continuously.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
Thanks for this!
Korin