Hello Emerald_City_Girl

to PC.

I do agree with both leed and tsol. I, personally, really struggle with the reality that human beings aren't perfect. And that means that people are physically attracted to others, whether or not they are in committed relationships.

This point is where things get sticky. Where reality and emotion/s hit one another. Some people are very realistic and accepting. Others (like me) are very emotional and are rigid. Neither side is healthy or accurate. The aim is to be somewhere in the middle ~ and talk openly with your fiance and see where he honestly stands on this scale. Because it's helpful when you are both coming from right around the same spot on this issue.

Btw, lots of other issues pop up in marriage. Huge: children ~ how many you want, how to deal with challenges that often overwhelm parents, what comes #1 after children are born? And #2, 3, etc.? Marriages often don't prepare for the different perspectives in raising children. It's certainly best to be sure that you two are in sincere agreement with these types of issues.

I obviously can understand your feelings of hurt and mistrust. I would have been out of there permanently! Talking with your fiance about these topics now, before the relationship becomes much more complicated could really help you both understand one another better. Hopefully it will help you re-build a sense of trust and faith that you can make it together. I wish you the best!