confuseduk
where i am from, it is not really typical for there to be so much correspondence outside of a therapy session. from what you have written it could be that your emails with T were based on your trust issues, her knowing them, she emailed with you to offer those reassurances to you because she felt that you needed them. not that i could explain your T's actions, but maybe she did not email you back after the particulary painful session because by being able to share your pain with her, it was an indication that you finally trusted her so maybe she did not feel you needed that email reassurance any longer. then when it was brought up in session, instead of being truthful with her, letting her know you needed that continued reassurance, you affirmed that you were fine without it. so she has continued to not follow up with you after appointments because she is falsely under the impression that you feel secure in your relationship with her. so if you need those follow ups you need to let her know. i can tell you that most T's arent used to getting correspondence thanking them for their time after sessions. usually a simple thank you after session is over is sufficient.