I am glad you posted. I think your T is very wrong about just going out and having sex. Actually, dating might not be the answer right now, either. I think that starting out with a friend or two might help the most. If there is something you are interested in(hobby of some sort), maybe you could see if you could find an interest group, either within or outside of the gay community. You could also see if there might be some type of support group you would be interested in trying, just to have support as a person. Although I think I am identifying as a straight, single female(I struggled with thinking that I might be a lesbian), I never bonded with my father emotionally and was scared of dating men. I've never been on more than one date with a guy in my entire life and I am now in my early 40s. I decided to become involved in community theater because I like plays and I also joined a support group. If you could start very simply, that would help your fears. If you don't find yourself attracted to women, then that is the way you were born and there is nothing wrong with that. I have many gay male friends who found support with each other(no dating) and just hung out to go to the movies, see a play, etc... I hope this helps.