Oh no, rs, I wasn't offended. I tend to get ranty and rambly on my phone. I was going off memories of what you and her bf's mother had said in previous replies. A year ago I would have probably been the one saying "well if this happened, there had to have been a (relationship) reason". Now it's just a touchy subject for me so sometimes I type while jumping off the deep end. But I do think were on the same page here. Having open, two-way communication definitely reduces the risk of these sorts of things happening